Love

  • #Love: My Biggest Digital Faux Pas

    #Love: My Biggest Digital Faux Pas

    Our attachment to computers can play tricks on us. With the ability to navigate anywhere, order anything, calculate any math problem, and answer any question right in the palm of our hands, it would be easy to feel god-like. Infallible, even. But oh, if that were the case! While our computers, and the internet, do make us instantaneously more knowledgable (and even correct our misspellings as… Read More

  • #Love: Crossing The Read Line

    #Love: Crossing The Read Line

    The birth of the Read Receipt was inconspicuous enough. It started out in our work email, with easy opt-out options, and was meant to slightly increase productivity. Today, the Read Receipt is everywhere, oftentimes as a default, poking its devilish head into all parts of our life, from the mundane to the professional to the very personal. Though most people will tell you otherwise, the… Read More

  • #Love: In The Time Of Spotify

    #Love: In The Time Of Spotify

    If you look closely at what I’ve built—at my playlists, all of them public—you can see me. You only have to search my name and you’ll see it all right there: what’s in my head. I’m 23, and my idea of love isn’t far from the chorus of “In Your Eyes”. I’m living in the memory of John Cusack standing outside a window. I’m in the… Read More

  • #Love: My First Experience With Internet Porn

    #Love: My First Experience With Internet Porn

    Pornographic media has existed since the dawn of time, but it has never been as widely available and accessible as it is today. That’s largely due to the internet, which provides a launch pad for our curiosity no matter the topic. But with sex, a topic relatively more private and intimate, the internet can serve as an important resource for sexual exploration, understanding, and yes… Read More

  • #Love: Pride

    #Love: Pride

    I’ve been gay since I was… well, born. At seven years old, I knew something was different when I felt an overwhelming affection for my 19-year-old basketball coach, Cathy. By the time I figured out how sex worked, I had also learned that my Southern Baptist private school and religious community weren’t cool with the whole “gay” thing. At 13, despite truly… Read More

  • #Love: Hacking Social Isolation

    #Love: Hacking Social Isolation

    Dr. Christina Villarreal is a clinical psychologist in private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area. For professional inquiries, visit her website here The evolution of technology into our everyday lives is allowing us to do things more efficiently than ever. The act of finding, experiencing and ending relationships is all now widely available at the touch of a finger to a screen. For many… Read More

  • #Love: My ‘Friends’ Don’t ‘Like’ Me

    #Love: My ‘Friends’ Don’t ‘Like’ Me

    When I was writing Unfriending My Ex: And Other Things I’ll Never Do, I read an article by Robin Dunbar, evolutionary anthropologist, which said that humans cannot process more than 150 friendships at any given point in our lives. This really resonated with me as I had been feeling spread thin on social media, only getting glimpses of the people I wanted to interact with because of… Read More

  • #Love: Meeting My Real-Life Husband In Virtual Vegas

    #Love: Meeting My Real-Life Husband In Virtual Vegas

    Tinder, Match.com, Plenty of Fish, OKCupid. With dozens of internet dating sites available today, it seems that much of the younger generation is comfortable with the concept of meeting their significant others online. But as a divorcee and mother of two, the idea of going online to meet anyone (especially my future husband) was a foreign concept. But when my two daughters came to me wanting… Read More

  • Kim Stolz on "Unfriending My Ex" #Love

    #Love: Kim Stolz On “Unfriending My Ex”

    You may know reality TV celebrity Kim Stolz as a contestant on America’s Next Top Model, or perhaps from MTV News, but what you might not know is that she’s spent the past few years researching many of the topics we cover in this #Love column for an upcoming book called Unfriending My Ex: And Other Things I’ll Never Do. (She also now works in finance with Citi Group.) That… Read More

  • #Love: Wanderlust

    #Love: Wanderlust

    Over the years, I’ve run my passport ragged, each foreign visa and customs stamp an inked reminder of life experiences. I travel as much as possible, sometimes for weeks or months at a time. And even though I often wander solo and choose erratic destinations, I generally don’t get too lonely because I’m constantly encountering fascinating people or things. But one arena it… Read More

  • #Love: Design For It

    #Love: Design For It

    If you believed the hype, you’d think technology was killing love. To start, the search has been tainted, or so people say. Algorithms are turning serendipity into superficial math. Swipe right and find yourself mired in a hookup culture gone mad. Try the likes of Grindr and experience the irrevocable blurring of the lines between dating and porn. Emojis offend the language of courtship. Read More

  • #Love: When Mothers Text

    #Love: When Mothers Text

    I bought my mom a cellphone a few years ago. It was just a simple Nokia flip phone. Something to keep with her on long drives to use in an emergency. She has a penchant for driving long distances, often to see me. The first thing she did was send me a text. I don’t even remember what it said. She probably does. But I do remember the exchange that followed. I texted: “hey look at… Read More

  • #Love: What’s Your Type?

    #Love: What’s Your Type?

    There was a time, I’m told, when the closest that two lovers came to text messaging was written love letters, sent through the snail mail. Perhaps they were from a soldier to his sweetheart back home, or, that’s how I’d like to imagine it. And then, slowly but surely, a period of textual radio silence commenced, driven by the adoption of the telephone. Until email and SMS… Read More

  • #Love: I’m Single, Therefore I Tinder

    #Love: I’m Single, Therefore I Tinder

    In the game of Tinder, you win or you get bored and give up. That is pretty much standard operating procedure for anyone with a smartphone and a libido. But what if you’re bad at Tinder? Naturally, I can’t solve all your problems. But experts from across the country, as well as Tinder’s own Sean Rad, have hooked us up with some solid advice. Read More

  • #Love: Thanks, Porn

    #Love: Thanks, Porn

    As a modern married male, the times spent alone with my computer and a box of tissues are, in some ways, the best times. That is not to say the manifold pleasures of family life and the wild menagerie of mere existence aren’t amazing, but a body likes to be alone. For this I thank porn. While there is no doubt that there are dark corners of this industry and that porn, to some people… Read More

  • #Love: When Your Lover Has Your Password

    #Love: When Your Lover Has Your Password

    There is a special milestone in each significant relationship that is rarely celebrated. There’s no holiday, no dinner, and no party. It just happens – one day you’re strangers, the next you’re not. It’s the day you hand over your passwords to your SO. Read More

  • #Love: Unfollowing Exes

    #Love: Unfollowing Exes

    One month ago, I got dumped. It was the third in a series of failed, long-term relationships over the past five years. All relationships end differently. Some exes stay friends, or fail to stay friends, or continue hooking up, or cut each other out entirely. Some exes combine any number of those things to form a symphony of chaos. But no matter how it ends, or how it evolves after it’s… Read More

  • A French Romantic Take On HeTexted, Because Crowdsourcing Relationship Anxiety Feels Wrong

    A French Romantic Take On HeTexted, Because Crowdsourcing Relationship Anxiety Feels Wrong

    As the only Frenchman on the team, I couldn’t browse HeTexted‘s website without having strong opinions on the subject. There’s nothing as cute as a great love story. HeTexted asks anxious women to write their potential lovers’ texts and their context. Women of the world can then vote and decide whether he’s into you or just not. It feels wrong for so many reasons… Read More

  • Mario Paint saved my life

    It’s so rare to find a real, heart-felt paean to a software product. Online writing is so cranky – see this – that it’s refreshing to read a real love story. Young Zen Albatross writes about Mario Paint for Super Nintendo. At age eight, the game taught him the basics of design and music composition in an easy-to-use package. Read More

  • Science tries to explain why you love Apple (and hate Microsoft)

    Why do people who love Apple hate Microsoft? Conversely, why do people who love Microsoft hate Apple? Science, that wonderful abstraction, may have an answer. A professor at the University College London, Semir Zeki, has proposed the following: love is a blind emotion while hate takes conscious effort to produce. Think of it in romantic terms: Why do you find that girl or guy attractive? You… Read More